so, it always seems to be the men who you are less interested in that are by far the more interested in you. it's kind of like the unrequited love thing... i think it makes some men go crazy. anyway... 45 has been quite the persistent 'ol lad. over the past couple weeks since our drink night rendez-vous, i have received a number of sporadic texts with invitations to dinner, drinks, etc. truly having been extremely occupied with work and my social schedule, i had so politely declined his invitations. however, on monday, he cornered me.
his text: "dinner tomorrow night? you work too much."

so, i decided to give in. however, i would be bringing a decoy... a buffer if u will. i told him that my roommate and i already had plans (total lie!), but he was welcome to join. this is not to say that i did not want to spend one-on-one time with him (because if this was the case, i would have stopped responding to his texts after the first drink). i think my need to bring along the wing woman drew from his overly ardent interest in me. something i still couldn't put my finger on. i couldn't just believe that his attraction was that i was a "hot, young piece of a**" as my roommate so eloquently put it. there was something more to this man... and i needed a second opinion. (that and i've been reading a book about a child abduction and the thought of being alone with any man at night is just frightening.)
v.w. had a meeting earlier in the evening, so we planned to meet 45/tom brokaw at 8:30 at a bar on polk st. when i walked in, v.w. was chatting it up with some new friends she had made at the bar, drink already in hand... in true v.w. fashion. we grabbed a table and immediately ordered a bottle of la crema. it was clear that both of us were peering at the door amidst our conversation. every man over the age of 40 that walked into the door of the bar, v.w. would look over at me bright-eyed.
when 45 finally arrived, i caught his eye and he came and joined us at the table. he greeted me with a kiss on the cheek... that i actually found quite charming. i introduced him to v.w. and surprisingly they hit it off right away. i honestly think their immediate connection had more to do with the fact that my roommate was a history major in college... and to be quite frank 45 is possibly pre-historic. either way... i loved it. this was the easiest date ever. i got to drink my wine and relax for the evening, while they debated the cold war, the vietnam war, and both world wars. and the more hilarious part, i felt no need to engage in the conversation. i guess when you are only lukewarm about someone, you don't feel the need to impress them. dauntingly though, 45 was not put off by my disinterest. he was actually turned on and continued to peer over during his conversation with v.w. and even proceeded to move his chair closer to mine, while discussing whether hitler was the true cause of wwii. (ironically, i think he took my disinterest for me being the demure, silent type. my greatest fear backfiring on me at this very moment.)
after about an hour of sheer boredom on my part, i took control and wrapped things up. he offered to drive us home and while typically, i would politely decline for safety reasons, i was pretty drunk at this point and thought to myself, would he really attempt to abduct two of us? (odds are highly unlikely.) he led us to his car.
(ok, what i'm about to say is going to sound pretentious but honestly, we all think it.) as we are walking down the street, i was eyeing every single luxury vehicle in hopes that i would see him unlocked the doors of a beautiful porsche cayenne (or something of that sort). guess again? "here i am," he finally informed us as he pointed to a small white honda civic. can you say let down?
just to remove the shallow image that i may have portrayed of myself in the above paragraph, i want to say a few things. i truly do believe that love and relationships are about the person and not what they have or what they can do for you. but there is a list of pros and cons that one begins to create to assess a relationship candidate. if the pro's outweigh the con's, then the candidate could have strong potential. 45's con's were already tipping the scale... and the honda civic was sorta like a 45 lb weight (no pun intended).
as my roommate and i got into his car, i realized i needed to make a clean exit--a quick goodbye, avoiding at all cost mentioning another date. this was my plan... somehow my roommate didn't follow my lead. by the time we got to our apartment, somehow, v.w. had invited 45 to a couple's evening in two weeks, and practically invited him to join us on our morning runs. no words.
so now that i'm fairly sure that the verdict is in and the scale does not lie. i realize that i'm just not that into 45. so now the challenge before me... how to lose a guy in 14 days. kinda a fun challenge. will keep you updated.
ADH