taking chances

so today, i'm feeling a bit sad. one of my grandmother's sister's has been in the hospital on a respirator ever since I left atlanta. this woman (and all of the woman of my grandmother's family are some of the strongest women I know. "badmammajamma" doesn't even begin to describe it. this woman has survived civil rights, raised 3 kids on her own after her husband was killed, defeated cancer... all while still finding a way to laugh and smile at the end of the day. And can you say get it girl... lady was a total man-eater in her day. growing up, all i heard were stories of all the men my grandmother and her sister's kept at their heels. they weren't afraid to exercise their liberties as young, single, sexy women... seeing and entertaining who they pleased when they pleased. as daughters of a woman with 4 children whose husband up and left when he was ready to pursue another life, these women were fearless and did not seek validation in men. they defined their futures... they did not wait for men to do it for them.

the other day, an ex of mine informed me that he did not think woman were built to be adventurous and date multiple men. according to him, we are creatures designed to deal with multiple children (not multiple men). our emotions get in the way and we're just frankly too scared. so these last three months, go out to my aunts, my grandmother, and all of the fearless woman out there. keep inspiring us. the rest of us will get there. i hope my adventures have inspired a few of u as well to just go for it (whatever "it" may be). just take the plunge. you don't know what might be waiting for you in the water.

btw, i'm writing this from a hotel room in reno, nevada. a surprise midweek vacay courtesy of mr. pancakes and co. just ordered room service on his tab and as soon as he gets back, i will literally be taking a plunge in the beautiful hotel pool and spending the afternoon poolside under the nevada sun with a pretty great guy at my side.

here's to taking chances and living the good life!


ADH