the forever single girl

just some food for thought. below is an excerpt from an article i was reading on my way to work this morning. i felt like it really hit the nail on the head in reference to what "relationship people" often don't get about those of us who "just want to date." i have always considered myself (and some of my friends--e.s. and r.p.) the "forever single girl." one can question whether deep down i really do desire a committed relationship. and maybe this is the motive behind this mission. but honestly at the end of the day, i can tell u i'm loving the ride as we all should enjoy the excitement of getting to know someone new. this is not to bash relationships because i think these too can be great. but none of us can deny that we don't love connecting eyes with the person across the room that you have been staring at all night (or in the online dating, get the "wink back" from the hottie with the great chin), the thrill of first dates, the endless questions that run through your mind in reference to the age old question "does he like me," and the best of all that tingly feeling you get when you connect eyes with that special person and realize that you are totally falling for them....


[Why do people] rush into making what you have something serious[?] Enjoy the excitement of not knowing everything about each other, especially the annoying stuff. Relish that moment when you are content with all of a person -- once you reveal everything, the mystery is not easily replicated.

The fantastic sensation of suspense and surprise that accompanies your dates will become rarer as your lives meld together. Ride the roller coaster, and instead of freaking out about every foot you go up the big hill, relish that you don't know the twists and turns yet. Once you do, it won't be nearly as thrilling.

Too often, dating feels like a race towards a committed relationship. But there are many people who have crossed the finish line and wouldn't mind going back. At least I wouldn't. How about you?

ADH

(excerpt courtesy of cnn.com, kelli bender)