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Tuesday, June 1, 2010

the profile

writing the profile... maybe the most difficult thing i have written since the term paper for my sacred journeys class freshmen year. thank god for a bottle of champers, ghiradelli brownies, and a little moral support from l.z.

dilemma... do i go for professional michelle? the sexpot? the party girl? or the simple girl next door?



the headline: I'm fun, easy going, and love to laugh. I'm a what you see is what you get kind of girl! (hmmm... maybe a bit too eager sounding.)

about me: I'm honestly not expecting to find the love of my life or the greatest guy on earth. I'm just looking forward to a new way to meet driven, motivated, and humble guys in the city (and what I meant by that was Yes, you must have a job.). I love spending time with people who enjoy life--from the simple daily treasures to the exciting adventures that God grants us along each of our journeys. It would be great to meet someone who gets me and gets just that! (very sweet, right?)

about my date: you should be over 5'10 (i need to be able to wear heels so this is a deal breaker), you must have at least a bachelor's degree and a job that you get paid money to do (and that would need to be more than my salary). I'm open to all ethnicities, would prefer a non-smoker but will settle for a cigar aficionado, would like a social or moderate drinker, and the last but most certainly not least criteria... you must not in any way, shape or form have children.

so is this me? or in h.s.'s words with reference to my sad attempt at dressing hipster in the mission... did i totally miss the mark? what would you write to describe yourself? not as easy as you think i promise. suggestions for amendments are accepted.

ADH

3 comments:

  1. Glad to see you finally took the plunge into online dating! As someone who attempted (briefly) online dating in the past and a member of the opposite sex, I think I may be able to provide you some unique perspective along your journey through online dating.

    My tip for this post: make the "About My Date" section a little more inclusive as opposed to exclusive. List a few qualities you are looking for or interests you hope he has. I think the strategy is to make sure you attract the good ones even if it means giving a few of the creepers hope that they have a shot, as opposed to possibly turning away some of the good ones to keep the creepers away. Besides,you can always ignore their advances with the click of a mouse; the single best feature of online dating.

    And my final tip of advice or idea to think about is...do you want the guy's height to be the first quality listed? Maybe one of those inclusive items would fit better there. However, I completely understand why that's important (my profile excluded all women over 5'6")

    Good luck with the online dating and keep me posted!

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  2. I concur with the above poster. The "About My Date", particularly the first sentence, sounds a bit high-maintenance and exclusive. The only determinant some potential date has to judge you by, is by what you type. Everything, tone included, is interpreted by the eye of the reader. K.I.S.S. your 'About My Date' first sentence. Sorry for being so frank. Good luck and I'm excited to hear about your adventures!

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  3. my mistake... excuse the above paraphrase in the blog "profile." below is how "about my date" actually appears. but kaps & mike, totally on board with your advice to add details about the qualities i most desire in the opposite sex. will follow up.

    ABOUT MY DATE:

    Hair: No Answer
    Eyes: No Answer
    Height: 5'10" (178cms) to 8'0" (244cms)
    Body type:
    * Athletic and toned

    Languages:
    * English

    Ethnicity:
    * Black / African descent
    * Middle Eastern
    * White / Caucasian

    Faith:
    * Christian / Protestant
    * Christian / Other

    Education:
    * Bachelors degree

    Job:
    * Executive / Management
    * Financial / Accounting / Real Estate
    * Legal
    * Medical / Dental / Veterinary
    * Political / Govt / Civil Service / Military
    * Sales / Marketing

    Income:
    * $50,001 to $75,000
    * $75,001 to $100,000
    * $100,001 to $150,000
    * $150,001+

    Smoke:
    * No Way
    * Occasionally
    * Cigar aficionado

    Drink:
    * Social Drinker
    * Moderately

    Relationships:
    * Never Married
    * Divorced

    Have kids:
    * No

    Want kids:
    * Definitely
    * Someday
    * Not sure

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